A few weeks ago I attended the 3 Day Abuse Class live streamed from Texas facilitated by Gary Douglas and Dain Heer. Originally, I wasn’t choosing this class as I have attended many Abuse Classes over the past 14 years since finding Access, so had concluded that I didn’t require another one.
Just as well I am cute, as I am sometimes not bright.
The day before the start of the class I started asking questions regarding the class and it was then that I knew that I just had to choose it. Wow I am so grateful that I did as the awareness and change that I have received from the class has been phenomenal.
I began to ask questions in regards to an event two weeks earlier and this is what opened the space to this new choice.
Two weeks earlier, my daughter had invited me to her MBA graduation from Bond University on the Gold Coast. Her husband and father were also in attendance. Her father and I have been divorced for almost 33 years and I concluded that spending the day with him would be easy. I am now so aware of how conclusions eliminate awareness.
The day arrived and as the day progressed I was getting more and more angry at the way that my ex was with me. Dismissive, lying, setting it up that my daughter and her husband would be against me, and constantly projecting.
I drove back to Brisbane in tears and asking: What’s right about this that I am not getting? What is right about me that I am not getting?
On the Abuse Class, Gary started talking about Gaslighters and who they chose to be. I had never heard of this expression before as most people would put their behaviours into the Narcissist basket. The lights started to come on for me and I had the awareness that my ex-husband is a Gaslighter.
During the class Gary highly recommended that we watch the movie Gaslight up to 20 times: a movie which was made in 1944 staring Ingrid Bergman.
I have watched it several times and now have the awareness of the energy that these people choose to function from.
Gary asked us: “What if you were the convenient target for the other person’s abuse? What if you didn’t take it personally?”
What if asking questions empower you to know that you know? What if questions open a space for a different possibility for you? Do you recognise some of the Gaslighter’s behaviours?
10. They try to align people against you. Gaslighters are master manipulators and find the people
they know will stand by them no matter what, and then they use these people against you. A gaslighter is a constant liar. When the gaslighter uses this tactic it makes you feel like you don't know who to trust or turn to, and that leads you right back to the gaslighter. And that's exactly what they want: Isolation gives them more control. This is one of the most effective tools of the gaslighter, because it's dismissive. The gaslighter knows if they question your sanity, people will not believe you when you tell them the gaslighter is abusive or out-of- control. It's a master technique.
The more you are aware of these techniques, the quicker you can identify them and avoid falling into the gaslighter's trap.
Article Written By Marg Braunack, Access Consciousness® Facilitator And 3-day Body Class Facilitator (with a class in Auckland in May).
Before I started Access ConsciousnessTM I was exploring other modalities and I was sometimes told that I had to protect myself. I was told had to really make sure that I took care of myself because the ‘evil eye’ would affect me, especially being a very active performer.
At that time there was a lady in an ashram in India who was very fond of me and very kind. She was genuinely very worried about me for being so open with everybody I met. She would always say that I had to be careful and I shouldn’t be talking to everybody the way I did.
She said that my energy was precious and also
vulnerable because of this. So, I should keep a distance, protect myself, not engage too much and not tell people what I am doing or planning. She explained this by saying that their jealousy would affect and disrupt my success and health.
I went along with many of the things she proposed to me but never, really NEVER did it feel light or true for me.
This idea of protection or hiding actually created separation. Separation from me, separation from my awareness, my capacities and my knowing. And separation from the world of Entities.
Now with the tools of AccessTM I know why I know I was aware of that. I don’t need any protection! An infinite being would need protection from who or what? I also knew that not telling people what I was creating and not totally showing up was not a kindness to me or to the world!
The idea of protection makes us function with barriers up, which doesn’t allow us to perceive, know, receive and be. The tool “Barriers Down” is a golden one for me! How do you use it? When you feel yourself contracting, when you are aware you are going into 'protection' or 'security and safety' mode: ASK for your barriers to go down, breath through your barriers, look through them and as you do let them disintegrate, dissipate, and melt away. With your barriers down, you start to function as that infinite being, that requires no protection and then everything can be a contribution!
The Talk to the Entities class has truly shown me how I do not require ANY protection. Actually – Awareness is my greatest insurance policy!
Kalpana Raghuraman is a dancer and Talk to The EntitiesTM facilitator with classes In Auckland during April 2018, www.accessconsciousness.com/kalpanaraghuraman
BY SHAUNA TEAKEN
What if you could re-grow your own teeth?
And never need another filling?
What if our bodies are capable of growing 3 or 4 sets of teeth in our lifetime?
What if gleaming, strong teeth, healthy gums and no cavities was possible for everyone?
While attending an Access Consciousness class over 18 years ago, dentist Dr Tom Kolso became aware of intensity or pain in his head. Nothing seemed to make it go away. A private session with Gary Douglas revealed that this was the beginning of a whole system for dental health, and Dr Tom’s job was to use the Access tools to gain more awareness in developing it.
BY MARGIE HULSE
I have just finished teaching a Foundation class and am reminded yet again how well the Access tools work. I particularly resonate with the tools used to create more money and wealth in your life.
Put 10% of every dollar away in a separate account as an honouring of you. Take it out of your account before you pay your expenses. Never spend it – invest it in items and accounts which will not require more money to increase their value. I invest in jewellery, gold and silver. If you are ever tempted to spend it, having it out of your account makes it harder to convert to cash. If you like to have money in a bank account, find one which compounds the interest and your money will work for you.
How many opinions have you heard on why credit cards are bad? They are designed to get you into debt. They take forever to pay off. You shouldn’t spend money you do not have. Interest is expensive. They are a trap!
While these accusations are not necessarily false, they do not have to be true either. If you pay off your credit card by it’s due balance a credit card can provide many benefits for you.
If you know how to make a credit card work for you, what could that create for your financial reality? Gary Douglas the founder of Access Consciousness encourages people to ask: how can I use this to my advantage?
Credit cards are a magnificent tool if you use them to your advantage. They do not have to be used unconsciously and get you into a lot of debt. They can be used to create you more money if you learn how.
I like to travel a lot and so I look for credit cards that earn me frequent flier points for my favourite airlines. You can also find credits that give you perks for all kinds of things. What if every dollar you spent gave you a discount on your groceries or a discount on an online shopping site? There is a huge variety of benefits for credit cards.
They also can be used to build up a good credit rating if you ever desire to get a loan. Not only are you more likely to be approved, you often can pay less if you have a good rating. Also, you sometimes can get alone with up to 55 days interest free if you know how to go about it. Again, a loan is something that you can use to your advantage if you use it well.
What if credit cards were not evil and what if it were not true that you are even spending money you did not have?
If you would like to learn more tips and tricks on how to use financial tools to your advantage, join me on my tele class Work The System this month!
It is also precious metals, ie gold, platinum and silver, precious stones- diamonds, sapphires, rubies and emeralds.
You will see that you may already be wealthier than you first thought. The more obvious forms of wealth are stock and shares, real estate and fixed interest investments.
What is it that you have in your life that is valuable to others? Do you have hidden wealth in your home already that you have not acknowledged?
How wealthy are you really? Add up your valuables and find your number!
By Margie Hulse
Someone said to me recently, that there seemed to be something missing or something I was searching for constantly. And the thing is, this is essentially true.
There is this gap / hole / ache /burning desire / search / quest / void or whatever you desire to call it in my world and it’s quite honestly there constantly.
This void is however exactly what gets me up in the morning.
It’s the gap between what I know is possible, the future I see and know can be a reality and the current pretty devastating version of reality we live in now.
Now how is this not depressing beyond belief and make you want to crawl in the covers again?
(by the way how is that so comforting? You can die in your bed too! Ok small break into Rebecca’s Brain)
What makes this not incapacitating is the knowing I have that I can truly contribute to creating this possibility. One of my brilliant friends Dr Dain Heer and co-founder of Access Consciousness® says “Being you, changes the world. There is some possibility only you know can exist that if you don’t choose to contribute to it’s fruition, it simply will not exist.”
This rings true for me, and the possibilities I see can exist are not ones I’m willing to let slip by just because i’m not really sure what it takes for those to be a reality. What I do know is that I’m not willing to live in a world where those possibilities do not exist.
So this brings us back to my friends comment about this constant search and right now, lack in my world. What I realised that I had not yet acknowledged was really profound and gave me a strength and surety in me.
Welcome to Access in Christchurch's blog! A collection of blogs from 3 authors, Margie & Rebecca Hulse and Sea Avery. Blog topics will range from consciousness, business, relationship, money, creativity, bodies, sex and more! What else is possible?